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Teen Anger

We live in a world full of anger.  The music and entertainment we listen too and watch is filled with anger.  We read books like the Hunger Games about children killing each other.  We play with guns and love to watch people fight.  We yell when we want to get a point across.  We are filled with anger yet we wonder why our students and children are filled with anger.

Bullying is an incredible issue with junior highers right now.  Students are filled with anger and this is how they release their anger.  They feel the rush of emotion as they release their anger on somebody else.  This can happen using words, fists, or even a look.  Releasing anger seems natural to many of our students, but why?

A big problem in junior high ministry is that we are trying to teach students how to deal with emotions like anger in a way that pleases God.  The problem with this is that many of us parents, teachers, ministers, volunteer leaders don’t handle our anger in a Godly manner either.  We all know that students learn better by seeing an example than by just hearing a message.  Our students learn that anger and fighting can be entertainment at a very young age, and we teach them this by what we view as entertainment.

Many times if we want to raise our children or students to understand how to handle anger properly, we need to examine how we handle anger.  We need to listen to ourselves in the way we correct or discipline.  We need to make sure that love shines above all else in every situation.

The picture above shows a student about ready to kick another student.  I don’t question why this student is doing this.  I understand anger and fierce emotion.  My question today is, “Who did they learn this from?”  “Who showed this student how to express the emotion of anger in this way?”

Was it you?  We must examine ourselves to make sure we are setting the proper example in all areas of our life.

James 1:19-21 says:

19 Understand this, my dear brothers and sisters: You must all be quick to listen, slow to speak, and slow to get angry. 20 Human angerdoes not produce the righteousnessGod desires. 21 So get rid of all the filth and evil in your lives, and humbly accept the word God has planted in your hearts, for it has the power to save your souls.

God’s Love conquers all!

How to Use Summer as a Launching Pad to Reach Junior High Students

Summer is here and our junior high students are left dealing with hours and hours of free time. Although they have baseball, softball, camps, and a multitude of other activities in the summer months, they still have a lot of spare time.

The question for leaders to consider is, “How do we keep junior high students connected during the summer?” Many youth groups have their numbers drop drastically during the summer; as a result they cancel part or all of their programming.

Many students can go the entire summer with out attending church or even opening their Bible.  This is not ok.  We must figure out how to keep them connected.  Students aren’t anti-church in the summer, but we may have to adjust our plan of attack.

Here are a couple of ideas:

1.  Plan outdoor activities.
Plan a trip to a pool, water park or theme park.  Schedule some time to have a junior high family picnic.  Plan ahead for these events and start advertising them before summer comes around.

2.  Schedule a spiritual emphasis.
Prepare a special summer ministry plan and promote it for your junior high students. Plan an exciting series of messages and activities during your groups meeting time that your students don’t want to miss.  Don’t lose momentum in the summer. Even if you do have a little smaller group, keep moving them in the right direction.  Junior high students can make life-changing decisions during the summer.

3.  Be available.
Don’t sit in your office all summer. Be deliberate about contacting your students for lunch, golfing, supply hunting for youth group or even help you with yard work. Spend time with junior high students (be specific with making sure you don’t show favoritism in this).  This will build trust and let them see you outside the building.

4.  Connect.
Contact your students on a regular basis during the summer.  Whether it is through social media, texting, or even and old-fashioned phone call, do it.  Make sure that you are available as aa student or parent need arises.  This will make you a part of their life instead of just that guy at the church.

Follow this plan or tweek it for yourself and you will find that summer isn’t just to sit back and relax. You might find that it is one of your most effective times to do ministry.

Promotion

It that time of year again to promote students to the next age level.  This means that at the start of June my 8th grade students will move on to the high school ministry at our church.  As they leave, we will get a new group of incoming students.  This creates several different feelings for me going into the month of June.

1.  I think about our 8th grade students. I think about where they are in their walk with Jesus. I think of all the students who have made decisions for Jesus over the past few years and those who are here now because a friend invited them.

I also think of those who have not made a decision for Christ, the ones who don’t come to church very often and those  who I know are headed down the wrong path.

I can’t help but wonder if there is something else I could have or should have done to help them in their walk with Christ.

2.  I also think of the new young students who will join our ministry starting in June.  I think of how much I want them to get connected.  I  talk to parents and teachers about them to learn all about them because I want to connect with them personally. I pray they will make a decision to follow Jesus Christ.

I also think of the students and parents who will be a handful. I think of being there for these families when tragedy or loss strikes their family over the next few years.

I can’t help but wonder what God has planned for us to accomplish together.

This is a huge time of transition for our students.  I know that God is in control, and I don’t need to worry about the students moving on to high school.  We have a great high school ministry at our church, and I know that our students will love it if they choose to get involved.

Our new students will do great in our ministry as well.  After a few months of getting to know each other they will be connected in a way that lets them know this is their ministry.  They will soon no longer be the new kids, but they will be significant part of our group.  They’ll contribute in conversations and make their opinions known. They’ll be asking questions about their relationship with Jesus, and they will be on their way to making their own decision to follow Jesus.

I want to encourage you!   Don’t worry about kids moving on.  Be excited about it because it is all a part of God’s plan.  His plan is perfect.

 

Junior High Students – ACT NOW

It’s time to get our junior high students serving.  Junior highers are capable of doing so much more than what many adults give them credit for.  As we look at junior high ministry, we can’t help but compare it to high school ministry.  With high school students, we always want to get them involved in serving, going on missions trips, and working at the food pantry.  What do we do with our junior high students though?  It’s important to find a way to turn their faith into action.

If you don’t see how much junior high students can accomplish for God, then you need to find a new area  of ministry to work in :) .  The big question is – how do we get them to serve and to be excited about it? We have all done service projects where a group of students comes out and does something because we planned it and their parents said they were coming.  Wouldn’t it be nice if they were the ones figuring out how to serve?  Wouldn’t it be great if they were the ones driving the project?  How do we make this happen?

Recently I read a post  called, “5 Tips for Mobilizing Teenagers to Do Something

“.  In this article the author says this:

Harness their passion, good or bad. “You don’t ask them ‘what do you care about,’” she says. “You ask them what pisses them off… and it’s gonna be something close to home. ‘I’m pissed off that my teachers suck,’ or ‘the school lunch is gross’ or that ‘that empty lot on the side of my street could be a ball field.’” Then you have to channel that energy into something productive: point them to tools to organize a community clean up of the lot, for example.

If students want to rake leaves, work in a soup kitchen, read to younger kids, start a Bible study in their school – then release and empower them to do it.

Stop over analyzing situation and give students the opportunity to put their faith into action.  We have some pretty amazing junior highers who want to serve.  Help them do this and you will all be blessed.

Prime the Pump of Your Junior High Ministry

I’ve had some times when I have felt like students just weren’t getting it. I’ve wondered if I was loosing effectiveness or missing the mark. I have often been disappointed in the progress of our junior high ministry. But I sense that I am not alone.

As junior high leaders, we face disappointments fairly often. We face times when somebody makes a choice that just doesn’t make any sense from a Christian perspective or when our students seem so far away from God. How do we face disappointment when it comes our way?

The idea of “priming the pump” might be helpful. Back in the olden days there were manual well pumps.  In order to get the water flowing. sometimes you had to prime it by pouring some water into the pump.  You have to get water moving before it can flow in the right direction.

This is the way it works with our students as well. We have to prime the pump in their lives. We have to be consistent  in our communication of the Gospel. I have to admit it always concerns me when I hear somebody talk about their yearly evangelistic series. If we only speak about such things once a year, then how can we expect students to see a need to make a life long commitment for Christ?

We must be consistent and prime the pump. Even when students seem to be struggling to connect or disinterested, we must continue communicating the hope we have in Jesus.  The method will change, but the message will stay the same. Continue to prime the pump in our students lives. Keep the message going and eventually it will get there motor running.  Once their motor gets running, then hold on because there is no stopping them.

When students really get going and sharing the Gospel with each other, our job gets fun. Keep priming the pump wherever they are at.  If we stay focused and see the goal then we can fight through even the toughest of times.

If you are facing tough times then don’t give up.  Focus on a relationship with Jesus and prime the pump!

I Need My Own Space

Junior high students are a very resilient age group.  They put up with a lot of being told what to do, where to go, how to do things, when to do things, and where they can or can’t go.  They often feel stuck in the middle because they aren’t adults, but they aren’t the little kids in the booster seat anymore.

Junior highers in many churches get moved around a lot and don’t have their own designated space. I have seen junior high classes that met in an office and one group of junior high boys that met bathroom (gross!).  As you can imagine,  not much spiritual growth happened in those groups.  Students don’t want to invite their friends to meet in a bathroom (even if junior high boys have ready access to some potty humor)!

We need to put a priority on creating a specific space for junior high students.  I don’t mean that you need to go out and do a building project to create your dream space for junior highers, but you need to be specific and deliberate with the space you have.   Students need to know that they have a place where they can be junior highers.  They need to know that they have a space where they can relax.  They need to have a space that they call their own.

In many churches this space will be used for something else as well, but they need to be able to decorate (to some extent) and set up (activities/games) in a way that makes it attractive and comfortable for them. This is difficult in some situations because the priority goes for a high school group or even another adult group that uses that space, but we must be creative. If that means we have decorations and games/activities that we put away after each class, then do it.  If this means that an adult class may have to have a poster in their room talking about junior high stuff, then do it.  We must put a priority on these students.

If we want students of any age to care about the message that we are presenting, then we have to be deliberate about creating an environment and atmosphere.  We put a lot of emphasis on how we communicate with students.  We are careful about what we say and how we say it, but often overlook the atmosphere of a room. It  can create or help facilitate conversations that can change students lives.  We must create a place where they can let their guard down.  Many students come from homes where they have a great deal of responsibility.  They must care for siblings, fix meals, and many other tasks.  It is great to give junior highers responsibilities, but they also need that place where they can relax and feel safe.

We need to put focus and effort into creating that space for them.  For many of us that means taking designated  junior high space only and being more intentional about creating an atmosphere that draws students in and creates community.  Others of us will have to take a shared space and find a way to make it junior high specific.

There is a group of us also that will have to speak to leadership and say that these students need a more substantial space. This will start a discussion about the importance and significance of junior high ministry.  Wherever you and your church are with your junior highers, we all need to concentrate on creating a place for learning and communication.  This is when transformation can happen.