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Meet Dan Istvanik

Head 1I would like to introduce you all to one of our writers here at JuniorHighMinistry.org.  His name is Dan Istvanik.  He is the writer of our recent Easter series, “The Bunny Trap

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Dan is 38 years old and has been married to his wife Melissa for over 12 years.  They have two children, Jenna (8 years old) and Kaleb (5 years old).

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Dan is currently the “Jr. High Youth Pastor” at Berean Baptist Church in Mansfield, Ohio where he has been serving for over 8 years. He has been doing youth ministry for close to 19 years. Before coming to Berean he was a youth pastor in Pennsylvania, Ohio, Louisiana, Wisconsin, and then back again in Ohio.

He has experienced a great deal of variety in ministry, as he has served in a conservative “independent fundamental”, a more liberal mainline Presbyterian USA, a deep south, Southern Baptist, and 2 more plain old Baptist churches.   This surely has allowed him to see ministry from several different points of view.

Dan has an associate’s in Biblical studies, a bachelor’s in counseling psychology and Theology, and just finished his master’s in Middle Education. He feels that God has called him to Middle School and Jr. High Students for a lifetime. We hear at JuniorHIghMinistry.org would agree with that.

Dan is also a regular writer and contributor to both “Group Magazine” and “Youthworker Journal”. Besides being a curriculum writer for JuniorHighMinistry.org, he has also written some curriculum for other sights as well.

We feel that Dan is helping lead the way in Junior High Ministry.  We not only want you to experience Dan’s curriculum writing, but we also want you to experience his writing on our blog. Here is his first post that he is sharing with us called “Ugly Ducklings!

”  We hope you enjoy it.  For more of Dan’s posts check out his blog here !

Helping with grief during Easter

121151110Recently many people have been grieving the loss of a young girl from our church.  The grief has stretched far beyond our church or even her college she was attending.  Many of you heard about her from my last post here

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As I have been thinking about things the past few days and working through this grief with many people online and in person I am also thinking about our upcoming celebration of Easter.

The definition of grief in the Merriam Webster dictionary is this:

Grief – deep and poignant distress caused by or as if by bereavement

This distress is understandable as we lose a loved one from this life.  We understand that we will never see this person again this side of heaven.  There are some that thought they would spend the rest of their life with this person.

It is even more understandable to have this deep distress when a student passes away because we see that their was so much more life to be lived for that person or so we thought.  When somebody who is older dies there is still a time of grief, but I think we also have an understanding that this time was coming.  When a young person dies it feels as if time was taken away from us here on earth.

Then we think of Easter!  My memories of Easter at our church are of celebration and unity.  I think of how for the past 19 years our church has moved to the Arena in our town and celebrated Easter there opening the doors for our community to join us.

Easter is meant to be a celebration of Jesus conquering death.  What an amazing thing to celebrate, but think of the people that were close to him physically on earth.  Some of them got to see him again when he came back to earth, but the others had to feel like he was gone too soon.  They had to feel like they missed out on time spent with him.  They had to feel this deep distress that he was no longer there.

Jesus was clear with with his followers that his time with them wasn’t over yet.  They knew that they had hope because of Jesus.  They knew that he was preparing a place for them in heaven if they would choose to follow him.

That is awesome news for the people that were dealing with grief back around that first Good Friday and Easter weekend.  This is also great news for us today.  We know that we can be reunited again one day in Heaven.  More importantly than being reunited with each other we also know that we will be with Jesus in heaven as well.

Grief is important and I believe we must work through it together.  One of the best ways to overcome grief is by sharing the hope Jesus offers us with others.

The Hope of Heaven doesn’t eliminate Grief, but it does change the way we respond to it.  Share this love with your students and families today!

She touched our lives!

I had an interesting week this week, and I know many of you have experienced weeks like this too.

Last Thursday we found out that one of our students from here at church died in her sleep while away at college.  As far as we know there is no explanation for her death.  She just died in her sleep.

Emotions have run high in our community as families and friends try to sort though all the emotion and confusion that we have during a time of loss.

This made me think of this young girls life in depth.  I found myself thinking of the time that I knew her.  I knew she was deeply involved in church, but more importantly she had an amazing relationship with Jesus.  She was not afraid to tell others about this.

This amazing young girl let people see her love for Jesus in everything she did.  She was not ready to conform to how others thought she should act.  She was not comfortable just being like everybody else.  She stood out.  Everywhere she went she let her light shine!

I thought back to the time she was growing up in the church, and I can’t help but think about her mom teaching Sunday school. When she got older and moved into Junior High Ministry I can visualize her wanting to make sure everybody had the joy that she had in knowing Jesus.

Her smile could brighten up the gloomiest of days.

I must say that I am very confident of this young ladies place for eternity in heaven, and that brings me to realize again the urgency of the work we do.

I am reminded that we have no guarantees for tomorrow.  I promise you that her preacher and youth minister never dreamed that she was being prepared to leave this earth at such a young age.  Her parents didn’t plan this, and her friends couldn’t even imagine such a tragedy was even possible.

This morning we shared in the celebration of her life.  She will not be quickly or easily forgotten.

I pray that the work we do with our students and our families will help them to come to a relationship with Jesus like this young girl had.

I want to share with you what she tweeted that night before she went to sleep.

“It still amazes me how the God who created this universe is my God who loves me unconditionally!”

Thank you for letting your light shine in our lives Miley!  I know that you are now smiling with God in heaven today.

(Miley Reed – Born: Dec. 2, 1990 Died: March 14, 2013)miley reed

I said YES!

I was recently asked if I really thought that junior high students were mature enough to handle making choices.  Let me be clear with you all.  My answer was YES!rbrs_0032

Here is what I was asked, “Do you really think a junior high student can make the choice to follow Jesus for the rest of their life?”

Let me tell you what I told this man.

Our junior high students have to make life-altering decisions everyday.  Our students have to choose to cheat or not cheat, lie or not lie, do drugs or say no to drugs, try smoking or say no, set boundaries with boyfriends/girlfriends or just do it.   These are just some of the choices our students have to make.

We also have students that have to make choices about how they will help care for their brothers and sisters.  We have students who have to choose what to do when mom or dad comes home drunk or wasted again.  We also have students who have to find a way to bring an income into their house.

These aren’t all things our students should have to make choices about, but in reality they are forced to because of the bad choices of others.

Our students are at a point in their life where they have to make a lot of choices, and the choice to follow Jesus is the most important of them all.  If you have a junior high student that wants to make this decision then you need to help them in every way you can.  Answer their questions.  Show them scripture.  Teach them how to follow Jesus.

If they truly make this choice in their heart at this age then it can change the rest of their life.  Walking with Jesus isn’t just for adults.

Encourage your students to follow Jesus when the time is right, and that time just might be right now!

Who do your students reflect?

ReflectionWe want people to see Jesus through our students.  We try to reflect the image of Jesus in our own lives so that people can meet Jesus through us.  We want to be their introduction to Him.

Our students can do a great job of reflecting Jesus to the people around them.  One of the big ways they do this is by acting in love.  Jesus loves us and died for our sins.  When we love others and meet their needs this is our opportunity to reflect Jesus to them.

One of our big goals as pastors, leaders, and volunteers is to help our students know how to reflect Jesus.  There is nothing better for me than to hear about or see for myself a time when my student shares Jesus with somebody by showing him or her His love!

What happens when our students reflect somebody other than Jesus?

Our students have a great opportunity to reflect the biggest influence in their lives.  If his or her biggest influence is Jesus then we are good, but what if it is somebody else?  What if a student’s biggest influence is a singer or performer that doesn’t show the love of Jesus?

Our students have to make a choice between being like Jesus or being like some other influence in their life.

A student who is reflecting the image of somebody other than Jesus may have a supreme focus on money, material things, or personal satisfaction.  These self-centered motives are not the ones Jesus has shown and taught us.  We have to help them see what image they are reflecting and where their focus should be.

We all like to teach about Jesus, and I am guessing we could all communicate to our students about how we are to reflect His image.

There is one other thing I would like us to think about.  What if our students are a reflection of us?  What would they look like?  How would they act?

Our goal is to point people to Jesus and have them reflect His image, but if they do get caught up on us then I would hope that they would be headed in the right direction.

Make sure you are reflecting Jesus, so that your students will see Jesus in you!

Decoding Love

Superstart Web PicThis past weekend I was able to attend CIY SuperStart

with some of our 5th and 6th grade students from our church.  This is a great opportunity to let some younger students experience a big trip for the very first time.  We are blessed to be able to partner with CIY for an event like this.

Over the weekend Patrick Snow and the rest of his team guided us through an incredible journey learning about how to show love.  As they fought off the evil Dr. Ego they learned how to deal with hurt feelings and rude people.

The SuperStart team does an amazing job of presenting this message in a way that allows these young students to learn on their own level.  It is amazing to watch our students learn from watching the characters deal with life on the stage.  Our students were entertained  while they were learning this powerful lesson.

It is amazing to see how they would focus in when Patrick would sit down and talk to them at the end of the sessions.  He did a masterful job of tying everything together and making our students feel like he was just talking to them.

One of the best parts about this event this year was that CIY brought their challenge cards to this age group.  CIY gives each student a challenge card in an envelope and each student is to decide if they will accept the challenge or not.  If you accept the challenge then you open your envelope and you have to do whatever your card says.

This worked great with this age group as the SuperStart team did a great job of selecting challenges for this age group.  This is something that can be life changing for a student as they do something that they know God is calling them to do.

This was the largest SuperStart they have ever had and I know that their audience will only continue to grow.  I would encourage you to check out CIY SuperStart to use as an amazing tool in your ministry.  If you have been to other CIY events then you don’t want to miss out on this opportunity when it comes around again next year.