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How important are big events and trips in ministry…Continued!

I received several responses to my post earlier this week.  It was nice to be able to interact with some of you on this topic.  I received emails,  comments on facebook, and comments on this page.  Thank you to all who communicated on this subject.  I would still love to hear more from you all.  I would like to just take a few minutes to discuss your comments.
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One of you shared about the fact that she had experienced these types of trips and events.  She loved getting the chance to bond and have fun.  She spoke of the stories and memories she has now because of being a part of trips that helped her grow in her Faith.

I would say this is one of the goals of going on trips.  Going on these trips is a way for us to truly get to know each other and just focus on God.  These memories are what make me think of how much I love spending time with God.  He brings me such Joy when I am truly focused on him.

Another of you shared a different side of things where every student does not enjoy or grow on trips or in big events.  Some of our students need the smaller group and shorter time frame.

I must admit I had somewhat overlooked this thought when I was writing earlier this week.  We must keep balance and realize that every student will not be reached with everything we do.  Sometimes I deal with parents that just want to have everything be just what their student wants.  That isn’t going to happen.  I encourage parents that if their student wants to have a Christian Party then they should throw a party.  Don’t be limited to just what the church offers.  God can impact students anywhere, not just at church events.  Options need to available for students to grow however they fit in.

Lastly one of you shared about working the soil and continuing to plant seed.  You shared the idea that we just keep planting seeds through these events and trips and never give up.  God will bring the growth if we continue to plant and water the seeds.

This was a great analogy of what we are talking about here.  If we look in Matthew 13 we see Jesus sharing the parable of the farmer scattering seed.  In this parable he shares how seeds fall in different places just like our messages fall on different hearts.  We must continue to scatter the seeds though.  I love how Jesus explains this parable in Matthew 13:18-23

18 “Now listen to the explanation of the parable about the farmer planting seeds: 19 The seed that fell on the footpath represents those who hear the message about the Kingdom and don’t understand it. Then the evil one comes and snatches away the seed that was planted in their hearts. 20 The seed on the rocky soil represents those who hear the message and immediately receive it with joy. 21 But since they don’t have deep roots, they don’t last long. They fall away as soon as they have problems or are persecuted for believing God’s word. 22 The seed that fell among the thorns represents those who hear God’s word, but all too quickly the message is crowded out by the worries of this life and the lure of wealth, so no fruit is produced. 23 The seed that fell on good soil represents those who truly hear and understand God’s word and produce a harvest of thirty, sixty, or even a hundred times as much as had been planted!”

Here we see that all of the seeds that we plant (or scatter) are not going to grow like we hoped they would.  We must not quit trying though because those seeds that land in good rich soil will grow to produce an incredible harvest.

In my last post I repeatedly asked the same question over and over again and here it is one more time.  Do big events and trips really make that big of a difference in junior high ministry?

My answer would be absolutely yes.  These events and trips must be well planned and organized, but if done well we can spread seed in places we may not have reached before.  If we do this then student’s eyes, ears, and hearts will open to God’s teaching.  We must be faithful and provide students with these opportunities that can effect them for the rest of their lives.

 

What does it mean to volunteer?

What does it mean to volunteer in Junior High Ministry?  What are you volunteering for?  Are you getting plugged in at your church, or are you going to a place where you will never see another adult again?  How long are you volunteering for?  What exactly are you volunteering to do?  Most of all, are you really needed?

As many of you know I have worked with junior high students for several years now.  Throughout the time that I have spent trying to work with students I have also had several experiences working with volunteers.  I have tried doing ministry without volunteers.   I have tried to let volunteers do ministry.  I have also tried to find that special balance of what volunteers want and need to do.  I have had volunteers that want to sit in the back of the room and just watch, some want to teach, some just want to spend time talking and building relationships with students.  So what is the best thing for volunteers to do?  What do we really need them to do in junior high ministry?

Even as recently as last week I was talking to a prospective volunteer, and they asked me what would I have to do.  Just like junior high students, our volunteers want to know what is expected of them.  Our adults want to know that they have a responsibility beyond just being an adult in the room.

It is easy to decide that you are going to do everything by yourself instead of letting one of your volunteers take responsibility for something.  In the past couple years I have really tried to release some volunteers to do ministry.  As a junior high minister, I have to realize that I do not just minister to students.  A large part of ministry in any age group is providing opportunities to serve.  I have been trying to take steps to give some of these opportunities to the volunteers that help at our church.

There are many ways you can challenge your adults to get more involved.

1. Volunteers can help with planning.  You can call them up and ask them questions about an event or lesson you are planning.  I find people much more excited about something when they have invested in it.  It is also easier for them to help evaluate and plan when they know the thought process that has gone in to past events.

2. Volunteers can lead activities for you.  Several of my volunteers have enjoyed planning and facilitating games in the past, so I continue to let them do that from time to time.  A couple of years ago I had 2 volunteers that wanted to plan our Christmas party.  I encouraged them to do this, and it was the best party I think we have ever had.

3. Let students hear your volunteers voice.  Let them pray, give announcements, or even teach.  If you are providing good visual advertisement for events then let your adults talk about them.  I know there are times I get tired of hearing my own voice, so surely my students would like to hear from somebody different.

4.  Let volunteers try different things.  I have had adults try something in the past and realize that it wasn’t the best fit for them.  Maybe you have a volunteer that is best fit at learning names and taking attendance.  Maybe you have an adult that can be the enforcer (a loving enforcer of course).  Possibly you have somebody who is just a great relationship builder while playing games with students.  Don’t think that every adult has to do the same thing to be a good volunteer.

You will discover over time that the more involved your volunteers are the more they like doing ministry.  If they like doing ministry then they are going to make an even bigger impact on your students.  When my students are impacted for Jesus, this is when I absolutely love my job.

I guess what I’m trying to share with you is this:  If you want to enjoy your job and be successful at pointing your students to follow Jesus then you need to get volunteers involved, show them you appreciate them, and let them do ministry.

If you do this then you will get to see some amazing ministry take place.  You also may see some of the funniest things happen in ministry as  people try and learn.

I would love to hear your stories about working with volunteers.  What has worked?  What hasn’t worked?  Share your stories in the comments below!

Discipline, Chaos, or Discipleship?

What are we to do?  Where do we draw the line?  How do we decide when they have gone to far?  How far can we go to control a students actions?  Do we kick them out?  Do we yell?  Do we let it slide?  Do we not worry about it?  What do we do to prepare our students for the choices they have to make?

Junior High Ministers, Volunteers, Parents, and Grandparents have all asked these same questions before.  We struggle knowing when is the right time to discipline.  If we do not discipline our students then chaos will happen.  Chaos does not respond to anything let alone discipline.  We have to know what is appropriate at the right time.  We have to decide when to discuss these issues, and who to discuss them with.

Over the years I have got to work with what I would say are some of the best students, parents, and volunteers that exist in ministry.  I have had students who did dishes at my house when nobody asked them too.  I’ve had parents who blessed us by organizing a way for our students to thank us for the work we do.  I’ve had volunteers come and say they wanted to take over a certain area of ministry, so that I could focus more on the students.  I have been so lucky to learn and share with all of these people.

BUT I have also dealt with students who will mouth off to you in the middle of a message.  I have dealt with parents who only want to think about what their child wants.  I have had volunteers who have made very bad choices in their conversations with students  (FYI…never get so mad you cuss out a student).  With these issues I have had to decide when to discipline (if that is what we call it).  So lets think about this for a minute.  When and how should we discipline students?  We all know that if students do not understand what is expected of them then we cannot expect anything but chaos.

I would like to give you a list of Ideas to prepare for all of this, and then tell you how I handle it.

1.  Set clear expectations for your students.  In our junior high ministry we have one clear expectation for our students.  That expectation is RESPECT.  We expect respect with our hands, eyes, ears, mouth, feet, and even phones.   We expect students and adults to show respect to others with their whole body.  We obviously go into detail about some of the areas of respect from time to time, but this keeps it simple.  This allows our adults and students to know what is expected from them all the time.

2.  Repeat your expectations.  Don’t just say it or post it on the wall.  Discuss the expectations on a regular basis.  Make sure everyone understands what they need to do.  We will ask from time to time what our one rule/expectation is and several kids will shout out respect.  Even if you have new students you now have created the opportunity to explain what is expected of them.

3.  Follow through with love.   Many times we think of Discipline as a time we have to come down hard on a student, but really it can be a relationship building time for many adult leaders.  If you have to pull a student aside or even out of class remember that students are going to make bad choices.  Our goal is to encourage them to make better choices.  Many times this can be handled through a quiet conversation and explanation of why the behavior needs to change.

4.  Be Consistent.  Never show favorites when it comes to discipline.  Make sure everybody understands that they are all equals.  If you have an adult leader that will not be quiet then ask them to show respect just like you would your students.  Sometimes this can be an eye opener for your students that you are really serious about what you do.

5.  Make Disciples!  Matthew 28 tells us that we are to Go and make disciples.  We have rules, expectations and discipline to control the chaos that junior high students create.  If we truly love our students and want to make disciples out  of them then we will do these things.  It is for there benefit.

I love working with junior high students, but there was a time I found it very difficult to get through to them.  The reason was there was too much chaos taking place.  We have to have clear expectations which allows our students to have fun and learn in a healthy environment.

How do you handle this area of ministry?  What expectations do you have for your students?  I would love to hear about the way you try to create an environment where learning can take place.  Leave a comment!

Frustrated! Part 2

We sit around and try to figure everything out on our own, and when we do that we just get more and more frustrated.  Frustration can be a powerful tool of Satan.  We have to look out for it just like any other temptation.  When I get frustrated I want to find more and more things to complain about.  I want to complain about people.  I want to complain about my workload. I want to complain about anything and everything.

What good does sitting around complaining do?

As a follower of Jesus Christ we have to stay focused.  We have to focus on Jesus above everything else.  I have found in my own life that focusing on Jesus takes my focus away from whatever is frustrating me and causing me to complain.

Many times as Christians we feel like we are the ones who have it all figured out.  I am a junior high minister and there are times that I think I understand the high school ministers job better than he does.   There are times I think I could do the senior ministers job better.  There are even times I think I could do our secretaries job better, but then I turn my focus back to Jesus.

I turn to follow Jesus and what happens is I remember that God hasn’t directed me to do any of those jobs, and honestly I don’t want those jobs right now.  I have been placed right here in junior high ministry for a reason, and I think it is totally awesome.

I quoted Proverbs 3:5 for you in my last post and I just want to remind you of it again.  Whenever you are frustrated or feel like complaining about someone or something just read this “Trust in the LORD with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding;”.   If we would all just trust that God’s plan for all of us is best then we wouldn’t get so frustrated.

People will ignore the call to become followers of Jesus.  Some who claim to be followers won’t act like it all the time.  Students will disappoint you with their decisions.  We have to trust in God no matter what.

If you have an example of a time you truly trusted God, no matter how hard it was, then share it here in the comments.  I would love to hear about it, and I know others would too.

Staying Connected in Junior High MInistry

How do you stay connected in Junior High Ministry?

The Life of a Junior High youth worker can be extremely frustrating when it comes to staying connected.  We have to connect to students, parents, our volunteers, our church, and other youth ministers.  It can be overwhelming to try to juggle it all.

I can tell you right now that I am organizing a camp for next weekend.  I just helped kick off a small group campaign for our church.  I got to preach to the adults on Sunday.  I have a CIY event in a couple of weeks.  I am working on a marriage retreat and decision weekend for our church, and we are revamping our bulletin, newsletter and website.  Let me tell you communication and connection are definitely a top priority for me right now.

You’ve been there before.  You work all day answering emails, texts, Facebook messages, and calls just to get home and keep on doing the same thing.  It is difficult to stay connected to everyone you need to communicate with.

I would challenge you to prioritize your communication.  Maybe you need to schedule communication.  Scheduling this time makes it a priority and also gives you time to accomplish what is most important.  Here are some areas you might want to schedule:

  • Facebook/Twitter Time (limit your time)
  • Emails (schedule time 1 or 2 times a day to read and follow-up)
  • Phone Calls (as necessary, choose an appropriate time of day)
  • In office Communication (schedule time to chat with co-workers about ministry)
  • Blogs (plan time to investigate new strategies and best practices)
  • Prayer (yes….schedule some specific prayer time with God)

These things may seem basic to you, but if you don’t schedule time for connection and communication then it can be extremely overwhelming.  Don’t exhaust yourself trying to keep up, instead be proactive and plan ahead!

What do you think?  How do you plan and schedule your connection and communication?  I would love to hear your comments!