Porn: How to Protect Your Daughter

Our daughters are so precious to us.  Those of us who are parents can easily understand this statement.  The girls in our ministries are treasures that need to know their value in the eyes of a Godly man.

Too many times our girls grow up thinking that their value is in their figure or in what they can physically offer to a man.  This is why so many of our girls make such bad choices when it comes to relationships.  As our girls are trying to navigate into the dating/relationship world the influences on them are incredible.  They see women on tv and in movies constantly offering themselves to men on a nightly basis.  I am not talking about just movies either.  We are talking about the tv that our students turn on every evening.

Many families sit down to be entertained by men who abuse and degrade women.  Then the entertainment comes from the women who are constantly trying to find happiness and love in the bedroom from another man.

Unfortunately, many of us are uncomfortable or unwilling to have conversations with our your girls to tell and show them that this isn’t the way it has to be.

With technology in hand many of our girls are making decisions about sharing their bodies with people that are made with very poor judgement.  Your daughter may be taking pictures of herself to send to a special boy that she would not even be willing to show to you.  She assumes this will make him happy, and maybe even make him love her.  He would never share that with anybody else, or would he?

The reality is that your daughter could be sending pornographic pictures of herself to a large group of people just by sharing it with one boy.

We obviously don’t want to see this happen, and this is just the beginning of what can happen when our daughters have a lack of understanding of where there value comes from.  So what do we do.

1.  Start early

If your daughter is young then start communicating about value and love now.

If your daughter is older and already starting to make some of these decisions then don’t wait.  Let her know that you should have talked to her sooner, but this is important and you need to talk about it.

Don’t be embarrassed or uncomfortable with her.  You know that boys are going to try to talk to her about sex and her body, so wouldn’t you rather be the one she talks to about it then some random boy at her school.

2.  Explain her value

No matter what age she is let her know that make-up, clothing, her figure, or any other physical attribute is not what gives her value.  Her beauty comes from God.  Her value comes from how she lets God use her.  We need to understand that our girls need to seek acceptance and love from God and not from man.

Young men like to tell girls that they have needs.  God gave us desires and yes we all want our desires to be fulfilled.  God also created a way for us to fulfill our sexual desires.  He created this thing called marriage.  Our daughters need to know the great gift that they can offer their husband if they are willing to wait until marriage. (This may seem uncommon or unpopular as she gets older, but once again our value can be found in the eyes of God and not the eyes of man.)

3.  Create moments with her

Find special times to show your daughter how a man should treat her.  Let her see that a special evening doesn’t have to end in the back of a car or a hotel room.  Take your daughter on dates and praise her for the woman she is becoming in Christ.

This weekend we are having a Daddy/Daughter Date Night at our church to give dads this opportunity to show their daughters how valuable they are.  It doesn’t have to happen at a fancy restaurant or in any expensive place (these are nice if possible), but we must let her know that she is valuable enough for us to do something special just for her.

Recently we found a post that we re-posted here called, “3 Things I want my son to know about porn!”  I believe that this idea of communicating value to our daughters is as important if not more important than what we communicate with our sons.

We need to be strong and communicate these things with our youth.  Don’t let the world raise them!